The Business of Managing Home
Women leading out of their homes is an underrated super-power in the kingdom and the world
WHETHER HOME OR ON THE GO…
Now, you know I fought writing this article. Mainly because the idea of me being a homebody or homemaker when I was younger sounded super far-fetched to me; yet, over the last five years God has been training me on this not only in preparation for my future marriage and family I’ll have, but also for the mission of learning to build a Kingdom home that spills over into the streets and sets an example for the world at large. For our first article under the Business Blueprint section, I thought it would be befitting to help women who are wives and mothers (or wherever you fall on the spectrum of leadership), to understand how much God values us leading out of our homes (heads up – this has nothing to do with home ownership, though if you own one, great). This has been weighing heavy on my spirit after I heard a message by Vontrise Coston through Saved in The City’s January Fast.
She mentioned “women leading out of their homes” several times. While I didn’t understand why God would allow it to linger on my mind beyond preparation for my upcoming season, I now realize why He’s been working this word in my life and how He wants me to encourage my sisters in Christ. So, let’s jump into it:
1) Leading out of your home doesn’t mean forgetting your goals and dreams. It means you have a safe place to pursue them. God knows how to perfect everything that concerns us (Psalm 138:8). If He placed a desire in your heart (meaning, you sought His will for your life and He has confirmed the desires that He placed in your heart), then He intends to bring that desire to a place of manifestation. When I was in my early twenties, I used to think women who were stay-at-home moms were sad and depressed. This was because I heard so many wives complaining about how they helped their husbands launch their businesses or go back to school, only to end up single-married mothers (their words, not mine). I was so afraid to get married before pursuing all of my dreams that it took the last five years for God to sit me down while I was still single to realize He can do so much from a living room (which we all learned in 2020). In the last four years, I’ve written and published six books, launched Girls Anthem on YouTube and built a platform for it to continue to grow, learned how to manage multiple properties, been on a world-renowned podcast, got a life coaching certificate and partnered with women in ministry through virtual speaking opportunities. While it’s fun to think of being a traveling speaker or a woman whose “always on the go”, being at home and building what God has called you to build provides a stability that can’t be explained. By the way, this magazine article you’re reading was written from my bedroom. Proverbs 14:1
2) Leading out of your home doesn’t mean the enemy won’t attack. It means you can create a safe fortress that keeps his attacks from entering your home. We all know that being a disciple of Christ means we will experience spiritual warfare until Jesus returns to the earth. However, this doesn’t mean the devil gets to just wreak havoc in our lives. James 4:7 provides a clear example of this: Submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee. While you can’t control your workplace, the restaurants you eat at, or even the homes of your family and friends, when you lead well out of your home, you have the advantage of making sure there are no doors or cracks open to the enemy. Asking God to reveal to you where the enemy has entered your home in any way and then, responding by closing those doors and sealing up those cracks, provides you with a safe place to do all God has called you to do, without much (if any) enemy interference.
3) Leading out of your home doesn’t mean you’ll always be home. It means wherever you go, you can create a “home” environment for those you connect with. There’s something miraculous and beautiful when a sister in Christ tells me it feels like home when she’s in my presence or talking to me on the phone. Imagine God building you up in such a way that wherever you go, people experience the peace of His presence and a resting place without having to be in a physical house. I once said on social media that when a woman meets her mate, it’s not about giving up her independence, it’s about finding a safe place for her independence to rest. Well, it’s the same with this. Taking care of home first and leading well out of your home helps you represent a type of “home” for individuals you’re assigned to outside of your household. Proverbs 31:26
4) Leading out of your home doesn’t mean God can’t use you globally. It means the globe may come to you instead. As of the writing of this article, two of my books have been promoted in West Africa. It’s blowing my mind how one conversation via DM on TikTok led to me meeting a bookstore owner in West Africa who promotes Christian romance. Listen – nobody writes books, blogs, films, etc. (or whatever your gift is) for it to be seen by just their momma and two friends. In seasons where He’s building us up, we will work in obscurity so He can prepare us for exposure (if that’s His ultimate will); but, for the most part, when He gives us these God ideas, there are people (nations) assigned to them. It’s not just for our four and no more. He intends to use us in ways that surpass our prayers; however, as I stated before, you don’t have to leave your home for that to happen. God can give you a global impact from your living room and can cause people to search you out. No need to despise being a homebody or despise a season where home is both your resting and working place. Trust God to enlarge your territory the way He sees fit for the season you’re in. Psalm 2:8
5) Leading out of your home doesn’t mean you have to lose yourself. It means God can help you discover more of yourself without the world's interruptions. The last four years have been a huge blessing for me. Being alone with God and having more time to pursue Him has grounded me in not only my identity in Christ but it’s helped me be unapologetic about the anointing on my life. I’ve discovered things about myself that I didn’t even realize. For example: I used to think I could only minister to single women because I’m single; but God has shown me that I can minister to married women because of what God knows about me and how He’s equipped me to be a well-of wisdom, regardless of my relationship status. Being a full-time entrepreneur isn’t easy, but not having external opinions from co-workers, family members, and others whom I would normally be around daily, has helped me to tap into the fullness of my spiritual identity without interruption.
Bonus Tip:
For women who are mothers, I encourage you to lead out of your home this holiday season (and beyond), by not just getting your children the things on their Christmas list or things they’ve been desiring for a long time. Ask them what they need from you that won’t cost you a dime. I’ve noticed a pattern with busy households: we give children what they want without asking them what they need. Even if they can’t articulate it, asking the Holy Spirit to help you give them what they need can provide stability to your home that can’t be purchased at GameStop or H&M. It’s easy to give children things to keep them occupied and busy, so they don’t notice your absence, but to take the time to have a conversation with them that will help them heal and draw closer to Christ is priceless. Don’t go into 2025 wishing your children would just listen to you and do better. Go into it with a strategy and biblical plan to do what God has called you to do to steward them well, no matter what the cost is. The streets and society are always clamoring for our children’s attention and while we can’t control their lives when they get older, we can control our homes in such a way that they have a blueprint to go back to when the darkness of the world confronts them.
CORPORATE MOMMY TIP
Being a working mother is no easy feat. Proverbs 31 shows us how God will quip any woman whom He has called to steward a family and a career. However, leading out of home may look like hitting the reset button and asking God where you need to spend more time at home, even if going out after work makes more sense. Having a family means managing your ‘yes’ and ‘no’ wisely. Nobody should get more time than your family, since it is your first ministry. This may also mean taking a hard look at your lifestyle, to see where you’re trying to keep up or maintain a manner of living God didn’t give you (i.e. your purchase decisions and habits could be gridlocking you into a workflow that was never God intended). Take the time this holiday season and beyond to seek God’s face in every area of your life. Make space for God to move without excuse. Lastly, balance doesn’t mean giving equal attention to everything at the same time. It means knowing how to balance the balls God has called you to juggle with His instruction, grace, and strategy.
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